I’ve always thought I had a good balance while in school. I made time for class, friends, homework, jobs, errands, clubs and exercise but when I began working full time I saw the balance drastically shift.
My to-do list was longer than ever before and it never seemed to get smaller. I just couldn’t shift things quickly to another time like I did while I was in school. How do you juggle everything when you have so many balls up in the air?
I am afraid its not easy and not the same for everyone. It took me a couple months to get into the swing of a new city and job. Let alone, I had a whole new set of priorities and commitments.
Get organized. The best way to determine what you need to give up or what to do first is make a to-do list. I am an avid fan of the to-do list and keep them on color coded Post-Its depending on deadlines/important dates, to-do items, work and home. Seeing a couple of items on a small square makes me feel a lot less busy, a long to do list makes me panic and makes me way more stressed than I need to be from just looking at it. Make sure to cross items off the list too. It makes it feel like your accomplished something and the list is getting smaller.
Have a plan. Plan out tentative deadlines and when you can accomplish them. Also look at your schedule, if you know you want to meet friends for drinks after work but you have 4 deadlines that night, you might want to reschedule with friends to another date. If you don’t want to change the date, then you should plan ahead by staying a little bit extra time each day to make sure you meet your deadlines or by going into work early.
Realize you can’t do everything. There will always be a point where you are going to have to make decisions such as a simple one like give up sleep or miss a deadline. You need to decide where your priorities lie. Be don’t be afraid to ask for help meeting a deadline, say “no” or take some time for you. Always be clear about your reasoning behind it and polite.
Eliminate stress by taking time for you. Make a point to take some time everyday just for you not at work. Go for a walk or run. Go window shopping on your lunch break. Read a book. Watch Lost. By taking that one hour for you away from the office, it helps to eliminate stress and go back to your to-do list with a clear head and more eager to work. You’ll probably get the task done faster than before if you didn’t take the break.
Don’t forget about the important things. Your health, friends, family and fun are important parts of your life too. Work pays the bill but it is not the only important part of your life. Don’t forget about them.
Don’t use busy as an excuse. We are all busy, have you ever been in NY? Everyone there is bustling and in a rush. There is always time in the day to take a step back for you for at least one hour to relax, everyone has a lunch break so use it.
Any other tips on how to find a balance in the crazy circus of life?
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